oh get over yourself that was a rhetorical fucking question and a personal fucking post
also, do your research. i will repost what i said last time this issue came up:
Firstly I will address the “14 guys omg she’s such a slut” rumor (I love how slut-shaming is awful bad evil unless it’s Taylor Swift then we can slut-shame all we want): First of all, when she was 15, her first relationship lasted for a year (19:05 here) and that was about a year before her career started. Since her career as a musician started at 16 she’s had six boyfriends (Joe, Taylor, Jake, John, Conor, and Harry) and I’d say the average lifespan of the relationships is about 3 months. Put that together, that’s seven years, six boyfriends, and nine months. Not even a year of her life has been spent with a boyfriend so let’s just distill that rumor right there.
Now to address the slut-shaming part. I can definitely see how some of Taylor’s lyrics could be interpreted as slut-shaming and I can’t blame anyone for assuming they are because they’re only not slut-shaming in context. The two songs she gets bashed for the most in that regard are “Better Than Revenge” and “You Belong With Me” —- okay so, the point of Better Than Revenge is not to slut shame and people interpreting the lyrics that way are just wrong. If you listen to the full song without getting on your pedestal and preaching to the crowd you’d realize the message is not “the girl my crush likes is a slut” (as suggested in the comments of the video) but “my boyfriend left me for a girl who’s known more for sex than good relationships and I’m angry about it” (like you wouldn’t be.) “She took him faster than you could say sabotage” “She’s not what you think” I agree the song is over the top and Taylor is pretty angry in it but to be honest unless you’ve actually been the angry fucked-over ex who got broken up with because your boyfriend likes someone else who isn’t who he thinks they are, I would not expect you to identify with or even like the song.
Now “You Belong With Me” is just completely misinterpreted and honestly I think the people who pick at the chorus are just LOOKING for reasons to hate Taylor Swift and I think that’s really, really sad. I’m going to interpret each verse the way it was meant to be, my comments in bold:
You’re on the phone with your girlfriend ‒ she’s upset,
She’s going off about something that you said
‘Cause she doesn’t get your humor like I do.
His girlfriend is upset with him for reasons Taylor thinks are inadequate and Taylor is upset because if he had done whatever his girlfriend is upset about to her, she would have gotten it. Reasonable.
I’m in the room ‒ it’s a typical Tuesday night.
I’m listening to the kind of music she doesn’t like.
She’ll never know your story like I do.
Taylor and His Girlfriend like different music, great. I would interpret the last line to mean Taylor knows him better than His Girlfriend does and Taylor’s spiteful about that because he doesn’t see that. Also reasonable.
But she wears short skirts
I wear t-shirts
She’s cheer captain
And I’m on the bleachers
Dreaming about the day when you wake up and find
That what you’re looking for has been here the whole time.
"She wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts" is not meant to slut-shame it is merely meant to compare the two and to further extent, show Taylor’s insecurities about the fact that His Girlfriend dresses more feminine and maybe that’s why he likes her more. Very reasonable. She’s cheer captain (this is probably associated with popularity) and Taylor is on the bleachers. Taylor is a loser, His Girlfriend is popular. Tell me you haven’t felt any envy towards the popular girls no matter how nice they may be. She was still in high school when this album get out and even younger when she wrote the song, get over it.
Walking the streets with you and your worn out jeans
I can’t help thinking this is how it ought to be.
Laughing on a park bench thinking to myself,
“Hey, isn’t this easy?”
"It’s so easy to be with you, we’re such great friends and I like you and we should be together." Reasonable and a thought anyone who’s ever had a crush has probably thought.
And you’ve got a smile
That could light up this whole town.
I haven’t seen it in awhile
Since she brought you down.
This is the part I’ve been dying to get to. The point isn’t “your girlfriend is a slut” it’s “your girlfriend visibly brings you down.” It isn’t “be with me because I’m a special snowflake who isn’t a slut like your girlfriend” it’s “be with me because I understand you and it’s so easy for us to laugh together and I think we’d work and your girlfriend is making you unhappy” and maybe it’s out of line for her to say “your girlfriend is making me unhappy” but (and I’ve been saying this a lot) tell me you’ve never seen a friend be hurt by their significant other and wanted to tell them so bad. I’ve been that friend.
You say you’re fine ‒ I know you better than that.
Hey, what you doing with a girl like that?
Not “girl who is a slut.” “Girl who brings you down.”
I think I’ve made my point.
Another thing whoever wrote that post wrote is that the majority of Taylor’s songs are about having a crush on a guy who doesn’t like her and hating on the girl he does like.
So I counted and she has 5 songs about unrequited love. In Teardrops on My Guitar there is absolutely no hate on the girl he likes, unless “I’ll bet she’s beautiful… and she’s got everything that I have to live without” counts as hate. (Wishful jealousy maybe, but not hate.)
In Invisible, it’s not Taylor hating on the girl her crush likes, it’s Taylor wishing he’d realize that in the same way he doesn’t see Taylor, she doesn’t see him. “She’ll never notice how you stop and stare” “She can’t see the way your eyes light up when you smile”
And I already talked about You Belong With Me and Better Than Revenge. (Something else to note is she was in high school or just out of high school when all of these songs were released. Forgive her.) (And Speak Now isn’t even about an experience of hers. It was written out of observation, as are many of her songs, which she’s stated in several interviews.)
Now I’m sick of addressing hate. I’m going to tell you why I absolutely love her.
I love her because she writes songs about finding yourself and bulimia anda boy named Ronan who died of cancer and how who you are isn’t defined by mistakes you’ve made (it’s about Kanye West tbh and it’s a beautiful song) and Joni Mitchell and her best friends and her mom andBobby/Ethel Kennedy and 9/11 (this song legitimately brings me to tears) and the things Emily and her dad went through. And that’s just the beginning when it comes to her songwriting.
She also writes songs about boys who cheat on her. She wrote it in high school and she’s harmlessly vindictive and a boy she loved cheated on her in fucking high school, forgive her for not brushing it off. She writes songs aboutboys who have no idea how much she adores them (a couple of these actually, most of which have nothing to do with whoever he’s dating and excluding Better Than Revenge, which I already talked about, do not say negative things about them.)
I love her because of the A Hug From Taylor Swift project. I love her becausedo you even realize how cute she is. I love her because of all her perfect little songs. I love her because of the way she handles criticism that goes from constructive to just mean. I love her because of all the dresses she wears.
I love her because she’s a beautiful person and it’s sad that people can’t see that. Read through this whole thing, watch all the things I linked you to, and by all means don’t like her because you don’t enjoy her music or because she just annoys you or you really just dislike her, but don’t give me that “she’s not a good person” bullshit because if she’s not at least a good person by your standards, they may be too high. And it’s okay to have impossibly high standards, it really is, but that’s not an excuse for taking a beautiful girl out of context and hating her for untrue reasons and thinking you’re better than people who look up to her.
It is ok to dislike her. It’s even ok to dislike her with a maybe unreasonable intensity. It’s ok if she just rubs you the wrong way and you don’t really have any explainable reasons for disliking her. It is not okay to make up reasons, take her out of context and make those into reasons and spread them everywhere and shame people for not feeling how you do. That is unreasonable and hateful and personally I think it’s disgusting.
I’m absolutely tired of this “I hate Taylor Swift” train everybody’s been getting on lately. It’s sickening how easily people on tumblr will hate or love something not because of information they’ve ever personally looked into but because of a post made by someone as ignorant as them looking to start a trend.
"On the anniversary of Lawrence’s death, we need to remember that he was killed just for being who he was. If we forget, this kind of crime could happen again. My parents taught me never to judge others based on whom they love, what color their skin is, or their religion. Why make life miserable for someone when you could be using your energy for good? We don’t need to share the same opinions as others, but we need to be respectful. When you hear people making hateful comments, stand up to them. Point out what a waste it is to hate, and you could open their eyes.”
That’s what I stand for and that’s what Taylor Swift stands for and these are all the reasons I love her.
Don’t like her all you want. I feel respectfully different but feel how you feel, it’s not my business. Just make sure you don’t hate her based on things that are not matters of opinion.
”I’m so over it omg you know when you’re as famous as Taylor Swift there are always going to be people who don’t like you and there are always going to be people who fucking hate you and write things like that about you it just comes along with the gig. It’s physically impossible for EVERYONE to like Taylor Swift, but I know for a solid fact that the only god damn reason that screen cap got 130,000 notes is because NOW it’s “cool” and “hip” to shit on Taylor Swift on this website and it really doesn’t fucking matter lol half the people who reblogged it probably have no clue what BTR is or even what this girl is talking about at all. All they care about is mindlessly hating someone who they clearly know nothing about because someone on tumblr made a vaguely interesting argument against her.
And I mean I’ve done the same god damn thing okay listen to this I really don’t like Pink okay cannot stand her I find her yelling at me on the radio annoying as all fucking hell and all her songs about being a ~~~weird underdog~~ got old in 2005 and I wish she’d act like a god damn grown woman. But one thing I know is that I’M PROBABLY WRONG about 95 percent of what I just said, and any huge superfan or hers could prove me wrong, because REALLY I know nothing about Pink or what she’s about because I’ve never cared to know. I don’t actually hate Pink. I hate the idea of Pink that I’ve created in my own mind (but also I really do hate her voice omg just STOP YELLING AT ME PINK) and the Pink in my mind is a slut-shaming asshole who thinks she’s better than 100 percent of the women in Hollywood and smarter than all of us. But then I KNOW that that’s ridiculous and I know that there is literally no point in hating someone for reasons that probably aren’t valid so my god damn solution to this problem is to give her singles on the radio a chance and if I don’t like it I turn it off and move on with my god damn day and I DON’T sit around hating on another woman to make a point about how hating on other women is wrong.
The fact of the fucking matter is that the person who wrote that ridiculous response has absolutely no idea what Taylor Swift is about. I’ve been listening to Taylor Swift since I was 13 years old so literally the entirety of my teenage years have been spent with Taylor’s music. And here’s the interesting part - I know that the key to happiness ISN’T a boyfriend. In fact I know that in most cases, the key to unhappiness is a boyfriend. I know that the key to happiness is doing what I fucking want and working hard to get what I want and making my personal goals and dreams come true, and you know who taught me that? TAYLOR SWIFT. Because when I was fifteen Taylor Swift released a song called White Horse that, for those of you who very VERY obviously don’t fucking know, is 100 percent about ripping apart the “fairytale” that happens in Love Story. White Horse basically says hey guys you know real life is not a fairytale and these things won’t happen to you and no boy is ever going to be every thing you need, so don’t stay stuck behind in that small tiny town with nothing going on just because a boy wants you to - no, you go off and leave that god damn town behind and become whoever YOU want to be, and just LET him try and catch you then. And then in Fifteen BLATANTLY “in your life you’ll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team” I mean what more do you god damn want? Obviously it doesn’t matter what I say because as I said before, these people don’t know anything about Taylor and don’t care to know anything about her and that’s fine with me lol they’re the ones missing out.” -andthatlittleblackdress